2-years ago today, my father passed away after his third bout with cancer. It was a tough pill to swallow for our entire family & 730 days later I have learned one thing more than anything else from this loss. We can’t live our life by constantly asking “what if?”
My dad was an incredible husband, father, pastor, leader & friend. We were always close but developed a true connection late in my high-school years that continued to deepen up until his passing. I trusted his wisdom and he loved my creativity. We didn’t see eye to eye on everything and we learned to accept that without holding a grudge. When I faced a problem or situation in my life, my dad was the first person I would go to. I no longer have that opportunity so I’m left with the “what if?”
I have come to the realization that my dad would not want me to live my life with a “what if?” mentality. I want to visit him and ask him for advice. I want him to hold the two grandchildren he’s never seen. I want him to go the basketball game with the rest of us tonight. “What if?” It doesn’t have to be a bad thing to think about, but I have learned from experience that it can become paralyzing when we dwell on it because we grieve instead of live.
I would venture to say I am not the only one who has struggled with the loss of a loved one. This post is therapeutic for me & it is my hope that this post encourages you to live your life without dwelling on the “what if?” I can’t imagine that those who have gone on before us want us to do anything but live our lives to the fullest here & now. Today, I celebrate life not death!